Prachi Gohil, Roving Editor
In this mundane lifestyle, have you ever stopped to wonder if your life has more meaning than being someone’s shoulder to cry on? The perception around the word “selfish” is quite obscure. When you are given the title of being “selfish,” it rarely feels like a compliment; it is clearly used in a state of criticism. If you have not thought about it, here are a few points to consider:
Do you feel bad when you cannot live up to expectations set by your parents, colleagues, or friends? How often do you find yourself bothered by a situation that does not involve you? Can you easily say “no?”
If your answer to the above questions is yes, then you are trapped in a hellhole of expectations asking yourself the same questions, “Where did I go wrong?” or “What’s wrong by being a reason for everyone’s happiness?”
You create an impossible circle of expectations to please others. We have often contained ourselves from entering a place which is unknown to us; we binge-watch the shows that we love and have seen before because it is easy and effortless. We have become lazy with the abundance of content that is accessible to us as we keep telling ourselves that whatever we are doing is okay. We are used to putting ourselves first and are now somehow accustomed to it.
We also tend to forget that our time is limited and we should not waste it on having an active part in someone else’s life because as stated in “One Tree Hill,” a television show, “It’s the oldest story in the world. One day you’re seventeen and planning for someday. And then quietly and without you ever really noticing, someday is today. And that someday is yesterday. And this is your life.”
There is nothing wrong with catering to your needs before others. The only concern here is that you are not walking over someone immorally for your own good. There is a very fine line between being good selfish and being evil selfish. This idea is similar to that of greed, “Greed is good.” Having a desire to want everything is not wrong, it’s the way you want it that matters.
So, how do you plan on spending your life? Catering to everyone in need or to yourself first?