An accustomed lie
Prachi Gohil, Roving Editor
There are over one million songs produced every year. Yet, on that cold winter morning, or that rainy evening – when you have a book in your hand and a coffee beside you – you know you would tune-in to the same old record that reminds you of a time or a place that is familiar. Why? Out of curiosity, I wonder why most of us like to swim back to our past. I know people who have spent a long time clinging on to the same wave because they are afraid of swimming to a new shore.
Maybe it is comforting for you to dwell on the past, and it could be your happy place, but that should not hold you back from trying out or exploring the lands unseen. Why are we afraid to try out new things? Is it the fear that you may not like it? Or is it known that you may like the new thing more than you do the current one and it could make you dislike the previous one? But if you are never willing to dive in and sway away from a deed that holds you back from what is safe and familiar, how does one know what awaits them?
We as individuals have often contained ourselves from entering a place which is fairly unknown to us. We binge-watch the shows that we love and have seen before because it is easy and effortless. We have become lazy with the abundance of content that is accessible to us and we keep telling ourselves that whatever we are doing is okay, because we are familiar with and accustomed to it. As most of us have a hard time letting go of our suffering, we move to dwell on the suffering that is known.
Self-love is the most important tool to lead a fulfilling life, and when you love yourself, you feed your soul and become the highest version of yourself. It feels natural to take good care of your body, mind, and spirit. Love begets love, so you are drawn to give to others. You have the energy to give, and in turn, giving energizes you. As cliché as it sounds, self-love is the gift that keeps on giving.
When asked about this, an anonymous student said, “When you love yourself enough, you can turn away from something that feels good and exciting. You also can differentiate between what is good for you and what is not. You build up the need to stay strong, centered, and focus on moving forward in your life. By staying focused on what you need, you turn away from automatic behavior patterns that get you into trouble, keep you stuck in the past, and lessen self-love.” An anonymous senior anticipating graduation in the upcoming semester feels, “as students we can be extremely hard on ourselves. The downside of taking responsibility for our actions is punishing ourselves too much for mistakes in learning and growing. I feel we have to accept the fact that we are not perfect and are bound to make mistakes. And only by truly acknowledging our mistakes we can rise above them. This can be a path to self love. If one practices being less hard on themselves, when they make a mistake they are giving themselves a chance to think rationally and act productively. My mother would always tell me this and I have carried this advice with me, there are no failures, if you have learned and grown from your mistakes; there are only lessons learned.”